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Is Cheating Ever Forgivable?

28 January 2013



I hate to be the one to tell you this but all of us cheats! Yes you heard me right. And even though I commented in the article that cheaters don't deserve a second chance. You may think I'm shooting my own foot but think about it.... 
  • How many times have you told yourself you'll start exercising but you didn't.
  • How many times did you say YES to a request when you really wanted to say NO!
  • How many times did you tell yourself that you'll curb your temper but you didn't!
So, all of us cheats on ourselves but expects others NOT to cheat on us. Do you think this sounds right?

I can understand why people cheat, because:
  • wife is naggy.
  • boyfriend not spending enough time with you.
  • no sex.
  • financial issues.
But that does not mean one has to cheat right?  I think if you are consciously aware that your relationship has gone off tracks then you need to be brave enough to work it out with your partner if you still want to grow old together. Otherwise, be brave enough to let the relationship go too!

How many times have you heard a man say that he's married but his marriage is on the rocks and he wants someone to talk to? 
How many times have you heard a man say that he'll leave his wife to be with you?

How many times have you heard your girlfriends complain about why they are always meeting unavailable men?
How many times have you heard your girlfriends tell you that it's ok to be someone married because they just want to have fun?

I mean don't you think all these sound like excuses?

I believe all relationships can be worked out... eventually... if both parties are willing to put in equal effort. And during these uncertain times, I agree that it is very tempting to cheat. Cheating allows one to get out and avoid having to deal with the situation for a while. But you know what, reality always comes back to bite you.

Why would one think of cheating when everything in the relationship is perfect?  There will be no room for someone else.  Before I got married, my relationship with my husband wasn't all that rosy and I had many options. So I know how it is when things aren't going the way you want and how the grass is greener on the other side. But once you've signed on the dotted line, you are committed to yourself and your partner to work things out.  If you have decided that you no longer want to be in the relationship, then end it. End it and then start another one. If one has the intention to cheat, then doesn't it mean that your heart is no longer with your partner? 

So, if both parties decide to face the situation, then begin by working on their levels of communication and trust issues or what ever issues they may have, then there is no need to cheat is there?

At the end of the day if you are attracting cheaters in your life, it really boils down to you. Are you cheating to yourself? If not, you won't be cheated on, neither will you want to cheat. Work on your own emotional issues instead of trying to run away.

When you are honest with yourself, you will start attracting honest people. Those who can't be honest be with you will no longer exist.



© Elyse-Anne - The Love Coach for Successful Single Women | Relationship expert for All Women

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