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Emotional Crisis

06 September 2013

Have you ever had the feeling of not having enough? Not enough time.... not enough money.... not enough anything?
I'm currently going through an emotional crisis which I haven't experienced in a while now. The last
time I had this feeling of unsettle-ness was a year ago.  Last year, I was trying to figure out my life purpose and what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. I had no savings.... no job... nothing.... only a burning desire to want to be success. So...  I hired a coach. Most people would think this is complete madness!

But yet something inside was telling me to do it and the money will come.  I know it's hard to believe that there's a way out when you are at rock bottom.  But if you are at rock bottom, the only way to go is up. You can't go any further down.


I trusted this feeling and sure.... in less than a year, the success I achieved was truly miraculous and remarkable. I went on radio, featured in the magazines and I'm 1 of the 5 women who are nominated as Xtraordinary Women 2013.

Despite having all these success, I still worry a lot about money. Even when I had money, I would worry about when is the next "pay day". I would worry about losing the money. Have you ever had those experiences? 

Well, this feeling of not having enough is back again. I realized... with or without money, I was still worried. So that means, it's not about the money. It was about my own insecurities. What it really mean is that I don't trust the universe and I'm back to my control-freak self.

People who have a lot of mind chatter are also control freaks! They want to try to control the outcome and they aren't risk takers.

What is mind chatter?

Mind chatter is the "noise" or thoughts in your head going on and on and one. And what you are thinking today is the same as what you were thinking yesterday and the day before and the day before.

EG:

You go on a date and the guy says he'll call but he didn't. So you have theses demeaning and horrible thoughts like:

"Maybe I said something wrong...."
"Maybe he didn't like my dress...."
"Maybe my boobs weren't big enough...."
"Maybe..... he didn't think I'm smart enough for him..."

Get my point? Mind chatters are stories you tell yourself that isn't a fact.

Well, maybe he was really busy with work and he didn't have the time to call you back.

I'm sharing my emotional crisis with you because I want to let you know that I've my moments too. I want to tell you I'm on this journey with you. You are not alone and I know how it feels like.

I recognize that I've hit a plateau and I'm moving on to the next level. And it's really uncomfortable because I don't want to stay in my comfort zone but yet I can't see what are the next steps. I know deep down something big is about to happen.

This is not the first time it happened... so I kinda know the drill. In the past, I had to deal with another emotion with is FEAR.  Because I know what to expect, fear is no longer in the equation. Just anticipation. And the body can't really tell the difference with fear and excitement. Now as I'm becoming more aware of my emotions, I'm feeling the excitement but I thought it's fear.

Anyway, here's how I manage my emotional crisis:

  1. It's my job to know WHY not how. 
  2. Stay focused on the end result.
  3. Take 1 step at a time.
  4. Communicate with my mentors and seek advice.
  5. Journal my emotions. (Be conscious about my emotions - what are they trying to tell me.)
  6. Decide.
  7. Have faith!
As they say.... there's always a breakdown before a breakthrough. It's as if the universe is rearranging itself to make things happen for you. A lot of people give up during this time because they think that nothing is happening and they tell themselves.... "it's a sign from the universe that it's not meant to be."

One thing is for sure. We cannot out smart the universe and the universe has unlimited resources that our minds cannot imagine. The universe knows what's best for us and it is always on time. 

REMINDER to self:
Have faith.... stay strong and trust that everything will be fine. All is well.
I'm the center of the universe. What is it that I choose to experience right now?






© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach

Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.

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