How to Raise your LOVE frequency
31 December 2012
Have you wondered why is it that some people just seem to have it all, while others struggle in life no matter how hard they try? And you may think it's luck or it's just your life journey to suffer. Before you continue to follow this self pity train of thoughts, I want to just stop... allowing your mind to go crazy right now with this "POOR ME" attitude.
Whatever that you're going through right now.... you've caused it to happen. So before we go on, start taking responsibility in your life and stop pointing fingers at others. This is the first step.
It's so easy to blame others while you whine and complain about things. Here's the thing... if you believe in the Law of Attraction, then you would have realized by now that if you want to attract the things you want in life then you need to believe and feel it in every cell and fiber in your body that you truly deserve it.
So while you're happily blaming and complaining about life, you're actually subconsciously attracting MORE of what you don't want in your life. Your subconscious mind can't tell the difference whether you're complaining about yourself or others.
This is also the reason why new year's resolution don't work. Because most of us are just doing it for the sake of doing it, to make ourselves feel less guilty about the things we didn't manage to achieve last year. And hopefully, we'll be able to accomplish them this year. And plus, I doubt you're even putting any emotions into writing it.
If you want what everything you want then there are certain specific "rules" you need to abide to. These rules aren't written by me, they are called Universal Laws that governs the universe. There's nothing WOOWOO about it. Just like the law of gravity, it doesn't care if you're rich or poor you have to abide to this rule. If you jump off the building, you'll fall and (maybe) break a bone or two.
How to raise your LOVE frequency to attract anything you want:
Whatever that you're going through right now.... you've caused it to happen. So before we go on, start taking responsibility in your life and stop pointing fingers at others. This is the first step.
It's so easy to blame others while you whine and complain about things. Here's the thing... if you believe in the Law of Attraction, then you would have realized by now that if you want to attract the things you want in life then you need to believe and feel it in every cell and fiber in your body that you truly deserve it.
So while you're happily blaming and complaining about life, you're actually subconsciously attracting MORE of what you don't want in your life. Your subconscious mind can't tell the difference whether you're complaining about yourself or others.
This is also the reason why new year's resolution don't work. Because most of us are just doing it for the sake of doing it, to make ourselves feel less guilty about the things we didn't manage to achieve last year. And hopefully, we'll be able to accomplish them this year. And plus, I doubt you're even putting any emotions into writing it.
If you want what everything you want then there are certain specific "rules" you need to abide to. These rules aren't written by me, they are called Universal Laws that governs the universe. There's nothing WOOWOO about it. Just like the law of gravity, it doesn't care if you're rich or poor you have to abide to this rule. If you jump off the building, you'll fall and (maybe) break a bone or two.
How to raise your LOVE frequency to attract anything you want:
- Be 100% responsible for your life.
- Stop complaining and whining.
- No need to be envious or jealous of others.
- Love starts with yourself.
- Raise your living standard.
- Surround yourself with beauty and positive people.
- Send blessings and love to people around you.
- Be mindful of what you are reading or listening to.
- Focus on the end result.
- Have fun and enjoy life!
The best things in life are free but it doesn't mean it's easy to do. Really think about these 10 "rules' and see how you can implement them into your life. I'm very sure if you can consistently apply and weave them into your life for the next 30 days, you'll definitely see positive changes!
Good luck!
© Elyse-anne - The Love Coach for Successful Single Women | Relationship expert for All Women
Your 2013 Love Life Predictions
17 December 2012
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The year is quickly coming to an end and as you look back at 2012, do you have any regrets and any "I wish I could have..." or "I wish I didn't...."? If you did, then I'm quite sure you've already told yourself that NEXT year will be a better year for you.
My question is, at the end of 2011 did you also tell yourself the same thing? That the year 2012 will be a better year for you too?
I'm not here to play DEVIL's Advocate but rather to bring you back to reality and do some serious thinking and to recognize your trends of excuses. Not many people will be willing to tell you the truth. Because they feel that the truth hurts. However, in reality, the truth will set you free.
What do you want to do for the rest of your life?
I know it's the festive seasons, and it's a wonderful feeling of giving and hope. And you may even have come up of a list of things you want to accomplish in the year 2013 and your new year resolution. Here's the thing.... I want you to look back at your list for the year 2012 and your 2012 new year resolution and ask yourself, how many of them were accomplished? If you did.. GREAT! If you didn't, how long did it take you to forget and give up on it?
OUCH! I know it hurts. So are you going to let this happen to you AGAIN in the year 2013 and then regret at the end of the year and AGAIN you tell yourself.... never mind.... 2014 will be a better year.
Sure! Of course you can do that.... but how old will you be by then? What are the consequences and results of not being in a place where you want to be?
I don't need to flip my cards to tell me that your love life is not all rosy and flowery for you too! Do I even need to predict how your love life is going to be like if you don't do anything different?
Want an awesome love life and abundance in the year 2013?
1. Forget about about making your wish list and your new year resolution.
Unless you are someone who can stick to the plan, then go ahead. Otherwise, I'd say forget it! Why? Because you know you won't be able to keep to it anyway. So what's the point of doing it and then have yourself feel miserable.
Instead, I want to really think about whether you are happy with where you are right now. If you don't know where you are right now, you won't be able to get to where you want to be.
2. Start each day brand new.
Stop talking about the past. The past is in the past and it remains in the past. Expect good things to come and will happen to you.
If you are waiting for your TRUE LOVE, then start taking powerful action steps each day to bring this reality closer to you. If you don't expect, it ain't going to happen. Thinking about how miserable you are right now, isn't going to help you either.
Choose to live in the NOW. Not the past or the future. It is the present that will lead you to your future.
3. Be the person you want to see in your TRUE LOVE.
Life is fair and you can't expect to be with your TRUE LOVE who has all the good qualities in him but yet you are behaving nonsensical. You attract who you are.
Learn to give unconditionally and see how your life will magically transform.
Do these 3 steps and I know that you will have an awesome LOVE Life in the year 2013. You don't need a psychic to tell you that you deserve the best and only the best. Only YOU can decide what's best for you.
Because of this her clients get proven, undiluted and specific step by step instruction on how to get over their exs, attract men they really want and not who they get without looking desperate and feeling needy. No more mind games. No more conforming to society "rules". Her clients usually experience an A-HA moment in just 1 session.
She believes that it's every woman's ultimate goal to love and be loved and live a purposeful life. When a woman experiences and gets the love she desires, she is able to create miracles in her life. She becomes an alchemist. On the other hand, when a woman's life is blocked in love, it affects every area of her life. She literally shuts down and experiences struggles in every area of her life.
"Love life and live life the way you want it!" ~ Elyse-Anne
© Elyse-anne - The Love Coach for Successful Single Women | Relationship expert for All Women
Are you allowing nasty people to affect your love life?
12 December 2012
Do you get easily trigger by people? Or do you get offended or upset when people reject your offer?
If you do, it means 2 things:
- somewhere deep inside you, you actually agree with what the person is saying about you.
- you are easily influenced.
I know how that feels like because I used to be like that. At least, I was easily influence. I still get triggered once in a while but unlike in the past, I don't blow my top and act like a childish princess. Instead, after allowing all the feelings of negativity to surface, I ask myself why am I triggered and do I believe or agree with what the other person has said.
When I started out doing my own business, I would get really upset when people unsubscribe from my mailing list or said no to my offer or would not turn up for my event. I would be feeling so low and wondered if there's really something wrong with me. Then I realized, it's better for these people to go so that I create space for those who believes in me and my work. < Same thing in your love life.> And really, we're given freewill to choose what we want to do.
Ok! So, instead of jumping around like a headless chicken and thinking of ways to attack the other person because you want to make sure the other person will feel as lousy as you, just ask yourself, do you want to be happy or right? I know! It's so tempting to attack and plant that sweet revenge. But for what? I heard this saying from a very wise friend years ago.... Water seeps through it's own level. So if you've identified this person as a troublesome person, then do you want to be like her?
And most of the times, these hooks or triggers happen to make you aware of you own emotions. Once you've addressed your own issues, you won't allow that someone else to affect you. I'm not saying that the other person is perfect. I'm sure he/ she has his/her own issues and because they can't handle their own issues and emotions therefore it came out as an attack.
So how does this translate to your dating life? Well, lets see....
If you're someone who's always judging and criticizing people (the attacker) or if you're someone who's always easily triggered (the victim), I don't think your love life or life is going the way you want and you may even be feeling miserable.... but you put up a front.
People who pick on others have usually lost control over their lives and deep down they have been hurt really bad. So by attacking others, it their way of protection and to prevent themselves from being hurt again. These people often don't really know what they want and are also attracting men who don't honor them, just want to sleep with them, abusive or can't commit.
To tell you the truth, these people may seem so confident, but in fact, they have very low self esteem and confidence. Otherwise, why would they need to be nasty? Like wise if you get triggered easily by others, then you don't really know yourself very well either.
Want to start attracting men who honor and value you? Then start honoring yourself today and stop listening to the nay sayers and allow people to control your emotions. Whatever you do, there will be people who will be pissed, so the only think you can do is to manage your own emotions and be that loving person and all the qualities you want in your Mr. Right.
Don't bother with all the people who don't matter to you and let them affect your emotions because ultimately, it is YOU that matters! Why let these people delay you from being from your TRUE LOVE?
© Elyse-anne - The Love Coach for Successful Single Women | Relationship expert for All Women
You always get what you want
10 December 2012
Are you happy with your life?
NO? What if I told you that you are the only one who is causing your own misery and unhappiness?
I know... you must be thinking I've gone mad... Why would you put an unhappiness curse on yourself and why would you want to attract men that ill treat you and don't treat you seriously right?
Well... hear me out. I just want to ask you what are you thinking on a daily basis?
Are you thinking about why is your life so unhappy and when is your TRUE LOVE going to "finally" appear to save you from all your unhappiness?
Are you waiting for things to change?
Are you still unable to get over your ex?
Here's the thing.... if you are constantly having such negative thoughts, then where's the space for LOVE in your life? In case, you haven't noticed... all the questions above are very negative and if you only have space for negative stuff, then you won't even be able to notice anything other than negativity!
There was once a lady who came to my workshop and it didn't take her long before she started pouring out her "sufferings" to me. She told me that everyone in her company didn't like her because they were jealous of her and that they were worried that she'll take her clients away. There was this guy that she liked but because everyone is the office "hated" her, the bosses gave specific instructions to him that he cannot date her!!!
I was like seriously?? And of course, I told her that her external environment is a reflection of who she thinks she is.
Then she got pretty angry and said how was that possible.... bla bla.... She then told me that she actually TRIED to commit suicide but was unsuccessful because the stool was too low and so she couldn't reach to the other side to jump down.
She asked me if I knew of any PainLESS ways to kill herself. I told her she didn't really want to die because if she really wanted to, she would have found other ways to do it and she wouldn't even tell anyone her plan...
She wrote me an email some days later asking me to help her to DIE... she said she could meet me after her work and that I should prepare everything for her... to have a painless death. She even said she'll pay me for my effort before she dies....
When I told her, I can't, she sent me an sms accusing me that I was a quack psychic and that psychics are supposed to help people die.....???
So my point is, no one is really trying to get you... it's the stories that you've been telling yourself and therefore you create your own reality. If you don't have any inner qualities of a "victim", you won't attract the abuser. The abuser can't play his role if you're not a victim. Decide that you no longer want to play victim and all the abusers in your life will disappear.
If you want to attract LOVE and you are thinking of how bad men are, then how can you be in a loving and non toxic relationship?
If you want ABUNDANCE and you are constantly thinking of what you don't have, then how can you see the opportunities when they are presented to you?
Therefore, you always get what you want UNCONSCIOUSLY.... and the only way to change your reality is to change your story and your beliefs!
© Elyse-anne - The Love Coach for Successful Single Women | Relationship expert for All Women
What Happens to LOVE after Marriage?
03 December 2012
Ever heard of the saying the grass is greener on the other side? While single women are trying hard to get themselves attached, married women are trying hard to make sense of their life after marriage and children.
I'm with my husband for almost 10 years now and I can tell you for sure it's been a hell of a roller coster ride. No one told me after the lust and infatuation is over, we need to work on compromise, responsibility, finance management...... Our relationship has been from start up --> break up --> make up. Trust me! We were on a verge of divorce many times! Read more about my story here.
What happens to that initial "LOVE HIGH" when you first met? You can literally survive on sunshine and fresh air, you jump out of bed every day with only 1 hour of sleep because you were on the phone with him the entire night. Remember times like this?
Well, guess what? This "LOVE HIGH" dies and fades of after 6 months and after that what seems quirkily cute to you may annoy you! This "LOVE High" gives you the same effect as a person who is high on cocaine and therefore... YES! It's addictive!
It's easy to attract your true love to you but it's not easy to maintain the relationship till death do you part! Look around you and observe the married people. Are they really happy with their lives just because they are married? Truthfully, the best part of the marriage is the day you get married. YOUR WEDDING DAY! Reality hits after that!
What really happens after marriage? Suddenly that fizz is gone, no more going out on expensive dates, football seems to be more important, he stops coming over to open the door for you when you get out the car, he complains that you spend too much time on dressing up...... no more calls during the day... there's nothing to talk about....
To make the marriage work, it's no longer just a dream or a fantasy idea where princesses live happily ever after. A lot of work needs to be put in to make this relationship work. I don't believe in failed relationships, people just quit and give up on themselves.
It's a two way traffic and it takes both hands to clap doesn't it? If a marriage fails, both parties are at fault. Someone gave up along the way. Either that or you are focusing on what YOU WANT and you are putting your needs above your relationship.

This is the reality! Are you ready for this?
What is the recipe for a successful marriage?
Not the 5 Cs people are talking about.
- Cash
- Credit card
- Country club
- Car
- Condominium
Instead:
- Communication
- Commitment
- Compassion
- Care
- Concern
Just because you are married, doesn't mean your spouse can read your mind. So don't EXPECT him to know what you are thinking about by keeping quiet. Men operate on a different frequency.
I recommend that you get the book 5 languages of LOVE by Gary Chapman. It's an easy book to read and very interesting so even if you're not that into reading, you'll enjoy it.
Marriage is more that just two people who are in love getting together. It's not about manipulation or power struggle. Really its about being together so that you can be better people and support one another in each other's growth and development so that you both can reach your maximum potential.
Now, what do you think of that?

Meet Elyse The LOVE Coach for women
Because of this her clients get proven, undiluted and specific step by step instruction on how to get over their exs, attract men they really want and not who they get without looking desperate and feeling needy. No more mind games. No more conforming to society "rules". Her clients usually experience an A-HA moment in just 1 session.
She believes that it's every woman's ultimate goal to love and be loved and live a purposeful life. When a woman experiences and gets the love she desires, she is able to create miracles in her life. She becomes an alchemist. On the other hand, when a woman's life is blocked in love, it affects every area of her life. She literally shuts down and experiences struggles in every area of her life.
"Love life and live life the way you want it!" ~ Elyse-Anne
© Elyse-anne - The Love Coach for Successful Single Women | Relationship expert for All Women
Another Short Review by Model Blogger Christine
23 November 2012
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Christine did an advertorial post for me 1 year ago (19th Mar 2011). Read it here.
Below is NOT an advertorial post, she did a review out of good will.
Exactly 16 days before my birthday, i met Elyse (www.purposelyinlove.com). Having gone through a turbulent childhood and many failed relationships, Elyse is now healed whole and enjoying a happy marriage for the last 10 years. All because she has self-love.
Self-love, it's something i if not everyone, struggle with.
I was defensive when Elyse asked if i was happy, confident and positive. I think, or rather, thought i am!
Not being personal friends, Elyse was tough in grilling me about my life and harsh in her words. She gave me a much needed reality check.
Why have my relationships failed? I looked down and mumbled "just didn't happen loh." She asked if i knew what i want. I retorted, "of course!"
"What do you want?" I rattled off some qualities, got frustrated with her interrogation and said," Aiya! I don't make a list. I've never made a list because making a list means Mr. Perfect and that don't exists!"
Oh-o...wrong answer. Elyse frowned and her lips pursed in an almost angry pout.
"Why do you not make a list? Why do you short change yourself and tell yourself you won't find a perfect man?" She tapped her fingers on the table repeatedly.
I recoiled in my seat, i felt small and i felt tears welling up. She was right.
There are certain things i need to change in my life, and what better time to do when i turn 17, in dog years.
I remember me and my bestie doodled on a A&W tray paper what we envision our love life to be. She drew a condo, a man, a baby and a Mercedes. I drew a beach, a man & a heart shaped with candles.
Today, she has a condo, a man, a baby and a Ford.
Making a list is not about the 5Cs(unless that's what you want). Making a list is a commitment to yourself to look out and recognize the qualities you want in a partner.
In fact, i resisted making that list until 2 weeks after because it was a challenge on my belief system.
However, since i'm turning 17, let me do something adult. Let me try something i've never tried before.
Here's my list. I need a man who's
1.Christ believing because my dad honours God and he honours my mum despite her flaws
2. Financially savvy because i suck at knowing what to do with my money
3. A planner
4. Disciplined (& thats why uniforms are sexy)
5. Responsible & reliable
6. Patient because i can be a toilet hogger
7. A listener
8. Not prideful because i want my opinion as a partner valued
9. Love my family as i love his
10. Treat me special and not everyone special
11. Honest & righteous
12. Committed
Because of this her clients get proven, undiluted and specific step by step instruction on how to get over their exs, attract men they really want and not who they get without looking desperate and feeling needy. No more mind games. No more conforming to society "rules". Her clients usually experience an A-HA moment in just 1 session.
She believes that it's every woman's ultimate goal to love and be loved and live a purposeful life. When a woman experiences and gets the love she desires, she is able to create miracles in her life. She becomes an alchemist. On the other hand, when a woman's life is blocked in love, it affects every area of her life. She literally shuts down and experiences struggles in every area of her life.
"Love life and live life the way you want it!" ~ Elyse-Anne
Are you in a relationship to SAVE you?
19 November 2012
Are you out of love? Miserable and broke? I know this sounds harsh but isn't that the reality? That most people are walking around with so much anger because they are so upset with their life? If you've the luxury of time, just go outside and observe the people walking past you. Are they walking with a smile on their face or walking in a rush with their heads buried in their smart phones?
You may already have watched this video that went viral on the internet but in case you haven't, watch the video.
The Washington Post: http://wpo.st/-vP (Video by John W. Poole)
Back to the topic, I don't know many people who are truly happy. When I get my clients to visualize or go back to a time where they felt really loved and experience true happiness, most find it a difficulty because they either can't remember or never truly experienced true love and happiness.... and tears start streaming down their faces.
I totally understand how and what that feels like because I was once in their shoes. I never knew and felt real love. Since my parents fought all the time and they eventually ended up in a divorce, plus I grew up watching unrealistic hollywood movies, I had no role model to look up to. So, how would I know what TRUE LOVE meant? If you have similar background then you'll know what I mean.
Despite all these negative beliefs and conditioning, I'm sure you still long for love. But the BIG question is... if there's such a thing called TRUE LOVE then why are you constantly attracting the wrong kind of men who either cannot commit or leave you hurt at the end of the day?
You may not want to hear this but as your LOVE Coach it's my duty to bring this to your awareness. This is because YOU are wanting to be in a relationship for wrong reasons. And these are the same reasons why the divorce rates are sky rocketing and married people often feel trapped!
These are some common (wrong) reasons why women want to be in a relationship:
- in relationship because the guy is rich!
- an escape to get out of the family because abusive background.
- unplanned pregnancy.
- being in a relationship for too long so it just seems like it's the right thing to do.
- your biological clock is ticking.
- fear of being alone.
- fear of losing face.
- pressure from family.
- out of obligation or convenience.
- save family or self out of debt.
If you are nodding your head like mad to one or more sentences, then you need to STOP right now and really think about this..... Does this feel like TRUE LOVE to you? Is this UNCONDITIONAL LOVE? Why do you really want to in love and what do you expect from being in a relationship?
If after answering these questions and you're feeling sick in your stomach then you really need to change your beliefs about LOVE and relationships otherwise it'll continue to sabotage your true happiness.
If you want something you've never had before, then you need to do something you've never done.
© Elyse-anne - The Love Coach for Smart, Sexy & Successful Women | Relationship expert for All Women
Meet Elyse The LOVE Coach for women
Her clients usually experience an A-HA moment in 1 session. Elyse's work is about changing people's personal energy and thought process on the topic of love and then their life changes.
She believes that it's every woman's ultimate goal to love and be loved and live a purposeful life. When a woman experiences and gets the love she desires, she is able to create miracles in her life. She becomes an alchemist. On the other hand, when a woman's life is blocked in love, it affects every area of her life. She literally shuts down and experiences struggles in every area of her life.
Elyse is dedicated to empower every woman to.... "love life and live life the way you want it!"
© Elyse-anne - The Love Coach for Successful Single Women | Relationship expert for All Women
5 Things Your MAN Will NEVER Tell YOU!
18 November 2012
Why women never seem to be able to shut up and men never seem to be able listen? The way we process our emotions are so different. Of course, there are men who never seem to be able to shut up either!
Unless you've a husband who cannot tell a lie or he's so bad at it that you can just look at him straight in the eye and he'll start blabbing..... like my husband.... =) or if you're as sensitive and intuitive like me, you'll be able to smell a lie from a distance, don't you wonder sometimes what the hell are the men thinking sometimes?
I wonder why men:
- have to pay for sex when they have a beautiful wife at home.
- need to have mistress if they love their wives so much
- have such big egos.
- cheat on their wives when they are about to give birth.
- like to look at big breasts.
- can't agree that women can hold the fort just as well.
- think of sex of often while they are awake... even in their dreams.
- finds it so hard to be just themselves.
- finds it difficult to say "I Love You."
- can't remember their own mom's birth date.
- behave like little babies.
- can't drive with patience!
- can't ask for directions.
What about you? Do you have you own I wonder why men are like this and that?
We women have our own issues too, it's not like we don't... So to be fair I'm going to pick the men's brain and share what they think about us.
Men wonder why women:
- have to so many pairs of black shoes. To them black is black.
- need to speak to our girlfriends on a daily basis.
- need to tell their girlfriends EVERYTHING.... like EVERYTHING.
- like to repeat and repeat (nag) themselves.
- like to be backseat drivers.
- have to spend 2 hours on beautifying themselves.
- cry while watching a movie.
- have mood swings.
- have to starve to make themselves skinny.
I think the BIG question I've always had in my mind is WHY CAN'T MEN ALSO GIVE BIRTH? Remember the movie Junior, where Arnold Schwarzenegger became (successfully) pregnant and gave birth? Everything seems to be possible now with technology and science, perhaps the scientist could look into this. After all, there are more and more men staying at home while more and more women are becoming leaders of the century, WHY NOT?
So, what are the 5 things your man will NEVER tell you.
1. What he talks about during his BOYS night out.
2. He doesn't like it when you speak well of other men.
3. He fantasizes about another woman while having sex with you.
4. He worries that you'll find someone better than him.
5. He (secretly) wishes you'll never be more successful than him.
You don't have to feel cheated or upset if he doesn't tell you everything because you don't want him to know everything about you or what you are thinking about either. Being together doesn't mean he suddenly belongs to you now and that you OWN him. If you feel that way, that's your insecurities acting up and by doing so, you are pushing him away and sabotaging your own relationship. It's good to have your own boundaries and time alone so that you'll enjoy your time together even more.
Remember, life still goes on and it doesn't revolve just around the two of you.
Meet Elyse The LOVE Coach for women
Her clients usually experience an A-HA moment in 1 session. Elyse's work is about changing people's personal energy and thought process on the topic of love and then their life changes.
She believes that it's every woman's ultimate goal to love and be loved and live a purposeful life. When a woman experiences and gets the love she desires, she is able to create miracles in her life. She becomes an alchemist. On the other hand, when a woman's life is blocked in love, it affects every area of her life. She literally shuts down and experiences struggles in every area of her life.
Elyse is dedicated to empower every woman to.... "love life and live life the way you want it!"
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