Have you wondered why is it that some people just seem to have it all, while others struggle in life no matter how hard they try? And you may think it's luck or it's just your life journey to suffer. Before you continue to follow this self pity train of thoughts, I want to just stop... allowing your mind to go crazy right now with this "POOR ME" attitude.

Whatever that you're going through right now.... you've caused it to happen. So before we go on, start taking responsibility in your life and stop pointing fingers at others.  This is the first step.

It's so easy to blame others while you whine and complain about things. Here's the thing... if you believe in the Law of Attraction, then you would have realized by now that if you want to attract the things you want in life then you need to believe and feel it in every cell and fiber in your body that you truly deserve it.

So while you're happily blaming and complaining about life, you're actually subconsciously attracting MORE of what you don't want in your life.  Your subconscious mind can't tell the difference whether you're complaining about yourself or others.

This is also the reason why new year's resolution don't work. Because most of us are just doing it for the sake of doing it, to make ourselves feel less guilty about the things we didn't manage to achieve last year. And hopefully, we'll be able to accomplish them this year. And plus, I doubt you're even putting any emotions into writing it.

If you want what everything you want then there are certain specific "rules" you need to abide to.  These rules aren't written by me, they are called Universal Laws that governs the universe.  There's nothing WOOWOO about it.  Just like the law of gravity, it doesn't care if you're rich or poor you have to abide to this rule.  If you jump off the building, you'll fall and (maybe) break a bone or two.

How to raise your LOVE frequency to attract anything you want:

1. Be 100% responsible for your life.
2. Stop complaining and whining.
3. No need to be envious or jealous of others.
4. Love starts with yourself.
5. Raise your living standard.
6. Surround yourself with beauty and positive people.
7. Send blessings and love to people around you.
8. Be mindful of what you are reading or listening to.
9. Focus on the end result.
10. Have fun and enjoy life!

Do you get easily trigger by people?  Or do you get offended or upset when people reject your offer?

If you do, it means 2 things:

I know how that feels like because I used to be like that.  At least, I was easily influence.  I still get triggered once in a while but unlike in the past, I don't blow my top and act like a childish princess.  Instead, after allowing all the feelings of negativity to surface, I ask myself why am I triggered and do I believe or agree with what the other person has said.  

When I started out doing my own business, I would get really upset when people unsubscribe from my mailing list or said no to my offer or would not turn up for my event.  I would be feeling so low and wondered if there's really something wrong with me. Then I realized, it's better for these people to go so that I create space for those who believes in me and my work. < Same thing in your love life.> And really, we're given freewill to choose what we want to do.

Ok! So, instead of jumping around like a headless chicken and thinking of ways to attack the other person because you want to make sure the other person will feel as lousy as you, just ask yourself, do you want to be happy or right? I know! It's so tempting to attack and plant that sweet revenge. But for what?  I heard this saying from a very wise friend years ago.... Water seeps through it's own level.  So if you've identified this person as a troublesome person, then do you want to be like her?  

And most of the times, these hooks or triggers happen to make you aware of you own emotions.  Once you've addressed your own issues, you won't allow that someone else to affect you.  I'm not saying that the other person is perfect.  I'm sure he/ she has his/her own issues and because they can't handle their own issues and emotions therefore it came out as an attack.

So how does this translate to your dating life?  Well, lets see....

If you're someone who's always judging and criticizing people (the attacker) or if you're someone who's always easily triggered (the victim), I don't think your love life or life is going the way you want and you may even be feeling miserable.... but you put up a front.

People who pick on others have usually lost control over their lives and deep down they have been hurt really bad. So by attacking others, it their way of protection and to prevent themselves from being hurt again.  These people often don't really know what they want and are also attracting men who don't honor them, just want to sleep with them, abusive or can't commit.

To tell you the truth, these people may seem so confident, but in fact, they have very low self esteem and confidence.  Otherwise, why would they need to be nasty?  Like wise if you get triggered easily by others, then you don't really know yourself very well either.

Want to start attracting men who honor and value you?  Then start honoring yourself today and stop listening to the nay sayers and allow people to control your emotions.  Whatever you do, there will be people who will be pissed, so the only think you can do is to manage your own emotions and be that loving person and all the qualities you want in your Mr. Right.

Don't bother with all the people who don't matter to you and let them affect your emotions because ultimately, it is YOU that matters!  Why let these people delay you from being from your TRUE LOVE?

Ever heard of the saying the grass is greener on the other side? While single women are trying hard to get themselves attached, married women are trying hard to make sense of their life after marriage and children.

I'm with my husband for almost 10 years now and I can tell you for sure it's been a hell of a roller coster ride. No one told me after the lust and infatuation is over, we need to work on compromise, responsibility, finance management...... Our relationship has been from start up --> break up --> make up.  Trust me! We were on a verge of divorce many times! Read more about my story here.

What happens to that initial "LOVE HIGH" when you first met?  You can literally survive on sunshine and fresh air, you jump out of bed every day with only 1 hour of sleep because you were on the phone with him the entire night. Remember times like this?

Well, guess what? This "LOVE HIGH" dies and fades of after 6 months and after that what seems quirkily cute to you may annoy you!  This "LOVE High" gives you the same effect as a person who is high on cocaine and therefore... YES! It's addictive!

It's easy to attract your true love to you but it's not easy to maintain the relationship till death do you part!  Look around you and observe the married people.  Are they really happy with their lives just because they are married?  Truthfully, the best part of the marriage is the day you get married. YOUR WEDDING DAY! Reality hits after that!

What really happens after marriage? Suddenly that fizz is gone, no more going out on expensive dates, football seems to be more important, he stops coming over to open the door for you when you get out the car, he complains that you spend too much time on dressing up...... no more calls during the day... there's nothing to talk about.... 

To make the marriage work, it's no longer just a dream or a fantasy idea where princesses live happily ever after. A lot of work needs to be put in to make this relationship work. I don't believe in failed relationships, people just quit and give up on themselves. 

It's a two way traffic and it takes both hands to clap doesn't it?  If a marriage fails, both parties are at fault. Someone gave up along the way. Either that or you are focusing on what YOU WANT and you are putting your needs above your relationship. 

This is the reality! Are you ready for this?

What is the recipe for a successful marriage?

Not the 5 Cs people are talking about. 

- Cash

- Credit card

- Country club

- Car

- Condominium

Instead:

- Communication

- Commitment

- Compassion

- Care

- Concern

Just because you are married, doesn't mean your spouse can read your mind. So don't EXPECT him to know what you are thinking about by keeping quiet. Men operate on a different frequency.

I recommend that you get the book 5 languages of LOVE by Gary Chapman.  It's an easy book to read and very interesting so even if you're not that into reading, you'll enjoy it.