She gifted herself a business
30 December 2013
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I'm sure you must heard about a kazillion times that you have to love yourself. The secret to success is self love. I get this question ALL the time from women. So what is self love and how to love yourself?
We have been conditioned to think that love is outside of ourselves. We need a man to complete us. Therefore, we go on a quest to search for that perfect man! And what do we get? Instead of finding that perfect man, we get ourselves into trouble be falling for "jerks" who breaks our heart and disappears before we can even say "good bye".
I've been taught from young that I need to find a RICH man. Only then can I enjoy all the luxury things in life. And that was what I did. I had many rich boyfriends when I was much younger. I didn't have any trouble attracting them. The only problem was... I didn't love them. Was I happy? Hell NO!
Make Money With Love
22 December 2013
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As a woman, why is it so difficult to make money? The speaker before me gave us the statistics that most women do not have $10,000 in their bank. But it's normal to carry a bag that cost a couple of thousands of dollars.
It's also NOT common for most women to make more than $10,000 a month. WHY?
Simply because they don't put themselves first. They don't think of themselves first. If they put themselves way at the bottom of the hierarchy, how will they have the time to think for themselves first.
Most women do that not because they are willing to do so. They do so out of obligation and responsibility. It's not out free will. If it's not out of freewill, of course there are so many women who are unhappy.
In the video I share my story on how I was struggling for 10 years and within a year how I went from struggling to thriving.
And because I've done it, it's my mission and purpose to help other women do the same. Every women deserves to THRIVE.
I believe if you do not want to have a ceiling cap for your monthly income and have the time freedom you want, starting a business is the way to go.
I know there are many women out there who wants to start a business but gave up before they even start because they don't know where to start.
Starting a business is easy but to sustain it requires effort. And I've discovered a proven method and system that can help you achieve 80% of result while putting in only 20% effort.
Stay tuned for more information.
Elyse-Anne is the Queen of Love Transformation. She went from being a drug addict and a alcoholic to an award winning coach.
Her work is about transforming ordinary women to Xtraordinary women so that they can live a life they deserve.
She was featured in CLEO magazine, Simply Her, on radio 938 LIVE (Eugene Loh's A slice of Life and Michelle Martin's Wow Club), an expert on the website, SelfGrowth.com, LifeStyleAsia.com, featured writer in Digital Romance and Xtraordinary Women - Best working mother 2013.
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design A Love Life They Deserve | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Let go of what you don't want
13 December 2013
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It's coming to the end of the year. Besides getting ready to usher in the new year and enjoying the festive seasons, it's also a time where most people start reflecting on what they didn't do and what could do to have things better.
If you have been following me, you'll know that I'm not a big fan of new year resolutions. Because for the simple reason. They don't work.
It's not that they don't work. Because you gave up! You could have started with such a huge dream and later on found out that you can't keep up.
Think about. Are your dreams the same as what you wanted to achieve last year and the last and the last?
Before you start day dreaming, I would like to help you set yourself for success right from the start. There're some background work you can do to ensure that you start your new year right.
Watch the video to find out what are some simple action you can take to set yourself for success.
Elyse-Anne is the Queen of Love Transformation. She went from being a drug addict and a alcoholic to an award winning coach.
Her work is about transforming ordinary women to Xtraordinary women so that they can live a life they deserve.
She was featured in CLEO magazine, Simply Her, on radio 938 LIVE (Eugene Loh's A slice of Life and Michelle Martin's Wow Club), an expert on the website, SelfGrowth.com, LifeStyleAsia.com, featured writer in Digital Romance and Xtraordinary Women - Best working mother 2013.
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design A Love Life They Deserve | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Plan Your New Year
02 December 2013
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It's the end of the year and the new year 2014 is just around the corner. In fact, it's next month. It's a good time to think about what you have and have not done in the past year. Basically, take some time off to reflect. And I'm sure as you reflect, you'll start to write your new year resolutions.
Before you do that, I want you think about all your past new year resolutions. You've made them and have you followed through? If not, don't waste your time and forget about it.
Don't get me wrong. I'm all about dreaming big and making things happen but here's the thing. If you have a big dream but you don't have any actionable simple steps, you'll give up before you even start doing anything.
Because you think it's too hard and therefore you give up. It's like we all know we can't walk before we learn how to crawl. The same principle applies.
Watch the video to find out how you can achieve your dreams with grace and ease.
Elyse-Anne is the Queen of Love Transformation. She went from being a drug addict and a alcoholic to an award winning coach.
Her work is about transforming ordinary women to Xtraordinary women so that they can live a life they deserve.
She was featured in CLEO magazine, Simply Her, on radio 938 LIVE (Eugene Loh's A slice of Life and Michelle Martin's Wow Club), an expert on the website, SelfGrowth.com, LifeStyleAsia.com, featured writer in Digital Romance and Xtraordinary Women - Best working mother 2013.
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Men, Money and Me
29 November 2013
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Most people are kept awake because of either Men or Money. Or both.
Men you can't live with and you can't live without.
Money - if you have to worry about how you are going to pay your next bill or where are you going to find money to put food on the table. This alone will cause a lot of stress.
Just 1 year ago, I was struggling to make ends meet but still I decided to have a 3 child. With many $1 in my bank days, why did I still choose to have my baby?
I asked myself this question:
"If money isn't an issue, will I have the baby?"
My answer was YES! So I had the baby and crossed my fingers that everything will be fine at the end of the day.
Watch the video to find out the rest of my story and how I turned my life around.
Elyse-Anne is the Queen of Love Transformation. She went from being a drug addict and a alcoholic to an award winning coach.
Her work is about transforming ordinary women to Xtraordinary women so that they can live a life they deserve.
She was featured in CLEO magazine, Simply Her, on radio 938 LIVE (Eugene Loh's A slice of Life and Michelle Martin's Wow Club), an expert on the website, SelfGrowth.com, LifeStyleAsia.com, featured writer in Digital Romance and Xtraordinary Women - Best working mother 2013.
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design A Love Life They Deserve | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
Why Not You?
18 November 2013
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I didn't grow up being the prettiest or the smartest. In fact, I don't think I ever fit into any groups. I tried but I always end up group hopping. I was happy to be anyone who "accepted" me and wanted to hang out with me. I often dreamed about hanging out with the popular group and how nice it would be to have many friends.
I hated to be seen alone. Because that was so uncool! I wanted to be accepted so, I started listening to the radio to learn about what's the latest music... Begged my mom for extra pocket money so that I could buy cool clothes to fit in. She gave me $300 and I begged my teacher to bring me shopping.

Carl Jung talked about the herd mentality. What I went through was a demonstration of this herd mentality. And that's also known as the society standards. Like why the women needs to wake up to feed the child (even though she has to wake up early to make breakfast and go to work the next day) while it's ok for the father to sleep through because he has to work the next day.
Have you ever asked who made all these rules and standards?
I know plenty of women who don't agree with the society standard rules but they don't do anything about it. What the do? They form their women groups and complain and gossip. I used to one of them.
Did you know if someone asked you a question, you don't have to answer?
But you will answer the question because you have been conditioned to do so and it's not polite not to answer. Therefore, we have been conditioned to be a good woman and not cause so much trouble.
Here's the thing.... If you want to have a divine life, then you need and must have the courage to speak up and stand up for yourself. Because the sad news is... No one will stand up for you.
Everyone I speak to would like to have more money. So why can't you have more?
Most people want to have more but unconsciously reject money. Consciously who don't want to have more so, it's your unconscious that's sabotaging you.
You may associate having more money:
- with having more responsibilities.
- means you have to work harder.
- means that you are greedy.
There must be something stopping you from making all the money you want. Because we are all created the same and are given the same opportunities.
I want you to think about this. You may have doubts but let's just agree that the above statement is true. Why can't you have the life you desire? List down all the "excuses" and ask yourself...."Why not me?"
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design A Love Life They Deserve | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
Women And Money
27 October 2013
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One of the reason why I achieved success in such a period of time is because I always follow my intuition. Intuition isn't the same as the "little voice".
The "little voice" tells you things like you can't do or... YEAH RIGHT!
The voice of the intuition gives you hope and strength. Although it may tell you do something completely out of you comfort zone but it shows you a solution. I always seek higher guidance for everything in my life.
So... your intuition may have told you that this guy will break your heart but you don't listen to it and ... erm... yes your intuition was right. The thing is... the more you listen to it... the louder it gets and you'll trust yourself to make decisions on your own.
Something strange about women. They can't think for themselves. Whenever they meet a new guy, they NEED to show him to her girls to make sure her girls approves of him. *roll eyes*
Excuse me... who's dating this guy now? You or your girls?
One thing I learn from successful people is that they make decision very quickly and they make it on their own. They trust their gut. When you ask around, what does it say? It says that you don't trust yourself for making decision for yourself because should something go wrong... it's not your fault.
Now.... be it in your love life or in your financial situation, you HAVE to be 100% for you own situation. You don't need permission from anyone to live your good fortune.
OK! For those of you who need permission to go get the life you deserve.... YOU HAVE MY PERMISSION...
Coming back to why I wanted to facilitate this Women And Money Workshop is because just 1 year ago, I was struggling. Struggling to make ends meet... struggling to make sense of why the heck I'm here... just struggling in general, if you know what I mean.
Today, I went from struggling to thriving and I even won the Xtraordinary Women Award 2013 - Best Working Mother. I thought to myself, that there must be a reason why I won this award. At the end of the day, an award is an award is an award. I believe that everything happens for a reason.
Let's face it... the reality is as such, people won't listen to you unless you've proved that you're worth listening too.
So, the workshop Women And Money was born. Since I won the award, I've received so many emails from women asking me how to monetize their passion and how to break free from the current situation they are in right now.
There're many .... many... many women out there who are dragging their feet to work but yet are so afraid to leave. Kind of like, staying in a toxic and abusive relationship even though they know it's not for their highest good. WHY?
FEAR!
Fear that they may not find a better man or job so this is as good as it gets. Fear that they will not be able to monetize their passion. It all boils down the lack of self worth.
"Who the heck am I to make so much money?"
"Who the heck am I to want to change the world?"
"Will anyone actually want to buy my products?"
So, what has this got to do with marrying the right man?
See... you want to marry the right man. Your right man wants to marry the right woman too. Are you the right woman?
Don't think that a man will magically appear and save you out of your situation. It only happens in the movies... in Hollywood!
When you learn how to make your own money and stand on your own 2 feet, you will start weeding out men who don't deserve your love and time.
If you're struggling in any areas of your life, you'll attract men who are confused and messed up in their own ways too.
I would like to see more women get their act together and start creating a life they deserve. No woman deserves to live a life they don't want. No woman! PERIOD!
This isn't going to be last Women And Money workshop. I would actually like to tour around the world talk about this.
If you would like to have me speak to your community, please shoot me an email >>> Elyse@PurposelyLove.com.
I discovered that there's something magical about the number $10K. Once you reach $10K, the world seems to change. And it's my desire to start a $10K club to help women achieve this in a short period of time.
If you haven't achieved any success in your life, it really means that you're not really hard up for it. Before money can work for you, you have to work for the money first.
There're no short cuts to success. If you're unwilling to do the work, then don't whine and complain.
"Learning how from a dark place Elyse has blossomed. Therefore it is possible for all of us through awareness and action. Liberating talk about money the whole day.
Not having money is no shame but women need to acknowledge this is a problem and find how they can be self sufficient - else they end up relying on a relationship or a job that is based purely on money.
I've learnt not to give myself excuses or doubt my beliefs and self worth. I'm 100% responsible or money and not everything is about money all the time. With good intention, money will come to me."
~ Angie
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"The workshop helps me to take an honest look at my relationship with money and uncover what are some of my limiting beliefs about money that are stopping me from enjoying greater abundance.
I love it that Elyse is very transparent about sharing her personal experiences and past struggles.
It's an inspiring workshop and I totally recommend it."
~ Ruth Wong (Freelance writer & Mom blogger - Mommy Cafe)
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© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design A Love Life They Deserve | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
What Is Your Love Zone?
19 October 2013
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Have you heard of this saying... Whatever you want is outside your comfort zone? So what is your LOVE zone?
You may say you want love and believe in love but until you experience love, you'll always attract a relationship based on your past relationships. Because that is your comfort zone.
You can have anything you want. You can't sit and OooMMm the whole day and not take any action. You can spend your time making a nice vision board or repeat affirmations to yourself everyday but you are not going to take any action, you won't get anywhere.
Before you take any action, it's good to find out what are your REAL beliefs about LOVE. Watch the video to find out what's really sabotaging your love life.
Why this is important? Because until you find out what's sabotaging your love life, you'll always have this little voice that will tell you... Yeah Right!
Successful Career, Relationship Failure?
14 October 2013
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You may think that women who have successful careers will have successful relationships.
When I talk about relationships, I'm not talking about people relationships. I'm talking about BGR (boy-girl relationships)
In reality, many career women struggle in that department. You would think that women who are successful have got everything sorted out right? That's just theory.
See... if you really want to climb the corporate ladder to be successful, all you need to do is be the best employee, add value to the company, make sure your have a good working relationship with your boss and ultimately make lots of money for the company. If you follow all these steps, there's no reason why you will not be promoted and get your rank.
If only BGR is that easy. There will be many happily ever after stories, no divorces and more happy people. You can read as many self help books and even attend all the love guru's workshops BUT love isn't 1 + 1 = 2. "Unfortunately" for some, we have FREE WILL. And we can't force men to love you the way you want.
You can certainly manipulate them to fall in love with you by acting a certain way or speaking a certain way. But you won't get to be YOU. Is that what you want?
Watch the video to find out how you can have both successful careers and relationships.
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design A Love Life They Deserve | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
How Do You Know If He's The Right One?
04 October 2013
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We all tend to think that our problems in relationships are unique. And sometimes you'll hear women say... "You don't understand my situation. He's different."
Let me assure you that this is not true. Whether you are in America, London, Africa, China, Singapore or even in the North Pole. We all think alike. That's the herd mentality or collective consciousness Carl Jung talked about.
Singapore is a cosmopolitan city with 4 main races but over the years we have counter parts from all over the world making Singapore their home. And I often hear the Singapore women lamenting on how easy it is for the caucasian ladies to "score" a man because they are confident, poised and... different.
On the other hand, I hear the caucasian sisters tell me that they are having such a difficult time here in Singapore because most of the expatriates come with their families and that dramatically lower their chances.
Have your heard of this saying... the moon is always greener on the other side? Well... we always think and assume that other people are having an easier time.
May I take this opportunity to remind you never to assume. ASSUME = making an Ass out of U and ME! And let me ASSURE you that the questions I get from the women are the same.
1. Where can I find him?
2. How can I find him?
3. When is the right time?
4. Is there something wrong with me?
5. How do I know if he's THE RIGHT ONE?
Whether you have been single for a long time or you are already dating someone, there is always this question lingering at the back of your mind.
HOW DO I KNOW IF HE'S THE RIGHT ONE?
Before I answer that, let me be the bad person and burst some bubbles (aka mind chatter or mind monkeys) in your mind and bring you back to reality.... Don't shoot the messenger ok... You can see this as tough love from me to you.
I want to ask you ask you a question:
- why do you want/need love?
Is it because you are lonely? Or you feel that if you have a man, you will be happier and life will be good for you?
If you come from this mindset, what it unconsciously saying about you is that you are hoping that a man will rescue you. And you see yourself as a victim.
When you come from a place of neediness, you will never attract the right one! As the Law of Attraction states, LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE.
There's really no such thing as the right one or the wrong one. You attract who you believe you deserve to have. I know! In your mind you may be thinking... Why the heck would I want to attract uncommitted men?
On the conscious level, you know that's what you do not want. But still, you are constantly attracting men who you don't want. So that means, you have to make your unconscious conscious, otherwise you will think this is fate (that's why Carl Jung said).
The formula is really simple.
When you are the RIGHT one, you will attract the Right one.
Most women expect to find a prince charming when they are the evil step sister.
I want to share a story with you.
I was asking a lady what qualities does she have and it seems like she took it the wrong way. And she yelled at me and accused me of being rude. Then I asked her what kind of guy she wanted and if she thought she was the right one?
Here's her answer:
"I know I'm the right one except for my fiery temper so I want to have a guy who is calm and cool."
My answer to her:
"That's great! You know you are the right one but I'm just curious. Why would Mr Perfect/ Mr Right who is calm and cool want someone who has got a fiery temper?"
There was a long pause and then she replied...... " Ya... that's true... I didn't think about it that way."
If you are thinking if he's the right one, I'm sure he's also thinking if you are the right one. Trust your inner gut feeling and if you sense that something is wrong then probably he's not the one.
True love is like a puzzle piece that fits effortlessly together. If it hurts, it ain't love.
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
He said he'll call... But didn't
30 September 2013
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For a long time, I've been telling the ladies... not to think too much and jump into conclusion that if a
guy says he'll call but didn't.
Well... I obviously don't think like a man so I think that if he doesn't call, he's busy... not that he's out with some other women. The reason why I believe this is because, women are great story tellers. Women can come up with the most ridiculous stories to justify why he didn't call and therefore conclude there's something wrong them. Stories are not facts.
Well... I obviously don't think like a man so I think that if he doesn't call, he's busy... not that he's out with some other women. The reason why I believe this is because, women are great story tellers. Women can come up with the most ridiculous stories to justify why he didn't call and therefore conclude there's something wrong them. Stories are not facts.
I had coffee with a guy friend recently and I decided to ask him what he thinks or why is it when a guy says he'll call but didn't. My friend is not just any ordinary man. He used to run a dating agency so I trust his experience.
Want to know what he said? Watch the video to find out...
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design A Love Life They Deserve | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
Instant Love Karma
25 September 2013
This love story belongs to a client who has been a client for a while now. When she started coaching with me, she just broke off with her boyfriend and was in a bad state. Manless and jobless.
Seriously, life can't get any worse than this.
Fast forward to today, she's in a job she loves and learning how to design her love life. But we all could do a little more push to get reach our maximum potential.
You may think you already know it all because your life is pretty good. But here's the thing... we all have blind spots and we can't see them. So if you can't see them, you can't change what you don't know.
The reason why I love VIP days is because it really is a accelerated process where the journey is condensed from 3 months to 1 day.
When we started the session, we talked about her dreams and we mapped it out. She looked at it and said, "I think it'll take me 10 years to get there." What she meant was the amount of inner work she had to do.
After I sprinkled my magic on her, she was so impressed that she was able to accomplish her emotional breakthroughs in 2 hours!
When you are in the "right" environment, anything can happen.
She asked me why I had to put her in a luxurious hotel room.
That's because if you're in a familiar environment, you're in your comfort zone and it doesn't change much of your experience.
In order to rapidly change and rewire your brain, you need to experience something new.
Here are some photos of the day.... Enjoy....
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
Do Opposites Attract?
23 September 2013
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I hear this all the time... Opposites attract. I used to think it's true. But in this video today I would like to share why I don't believe this is the case.
On a side note, do you actually want to attract someone who's the same as you or do you want to attract someone who's completely opposite from you?
I feel it depends on why you want to be in a relationship or why you want a man.
If you want a man to save you, then obviously you'll want someone who is the complete opposite of you. However, if you are already successful and happy then you would want someone of equal status.
So, coming back to the question.... Do opposites attract?
The answer is NO. On the surface, it may seem like the opposites attract. But that's only on the superficial level. If you know and believe about the Law of Attraction, then you'll know that LIKE Attracts LIKE.
That means you attract what/ who you deserve to have. You may be saying.... NO!!! How the heck is this possible... Why would I want to emotionally unavailable men?
You attract the men who mirror your thoughts and beliefs.
YES! On the conscious level, you know you don't want. But that does not mean you unconsciously believe that's the case. It's always the unconscious beliefs that are driving your results.
WATCH the rest of the video to find out how you can attract the man of your dreams RIGHT NOW!
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
7 Tips To Be The CEO Of Your Love Life
16 September 2013
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You believe in love but the guys you are attracting are either married or emotionally unavailable. You know that there is such a thing called love but just not sure why it’s not happening to you.
We all unconsciously know that love exists. But do you know what LOVE really is?
It doesn’t matter what your life purpose or mission is, I believe that your sole purpose in life is to find love and be happy. It’s such a simple desire but yet the journey to finding love seems so tough.
Well, I don’t blame you. How would you know how love feels like if you don’t know what is love and how it feels like in the first place. Have you ever wondered where your concept of love came from? Do you think those Hollywood movies have any impact in your love life? If you did, then you’ll always be expecting a relationship to be filled with dramas.
Next, I want you to look at your parent’s relationship. How would you describe it? Is it unconsciously affecting your relationships?
Whatever you have unconsciously learned about love as a child, I want to tell you that you can consciously change it now.
Don’t leave your love life to fate and wait hopelessly for the right man to appear. I want to show you how you can actually design your love life and attract the men who you actually want to date instead of those you don’t really want.
1. Make a decision.
The only difference between you and the women who are in happy relationships, is a decision. You can never change other people to make your life easier. Once you start treating yourself like a queen, others will follow suit. Think about it this way, if you don’t treat yourself right, why would others treat you right?
The abuser cannot play his role if you didn’t choose to be a victim.
2. Get clear on why you want love.
Most women want a relationship because they feel lonely or they think that by having a man, the man will save them from the current situation they are in. Kim Kiyosaki famously said,” A man is not your financial plan.”
If you want a man because you are lonely, then you are unconsciously sending out desperate and needy vibes and therefore, you won’t be able to attract a healthy relationship. You attract what you radiate.
A man cannot fill the emotional void you have within yourself. So get clear why you want love. Make sure it’s not because you are desperate or needy. Another thing is make sure you are wanting a relationship not because your biology clock is ticking or that’s what everyone say you should do.
3. What type of man you really want to date.
I’m sure you know the kind of men you don’t want to date but that’s not enough. You are getting only one part of the formula right.
It’s like telling the waiter you want fish but don’t tell him how you want it to be served. The chef will not be able cook up something you want. If you would just tell the waiter exactly what you wanted and told him you wanted fish and chips, you will get fish and chips.
So, be clear on the kind of men you want to date. The only reason why women don’t (dare) to get clear is because they don’t know what they want and therefore leaving it completely to fate. Date as the men come along and then decide from there. But you risk and waste a lot of time trying to make things right. It’s harder for a women pull out once she’s emotionally involved.
Also, women don’t get clear because they doubt there is this perfect man for them.
4. Let go of the past.
Don’t let your past experiences decide the kind of future you can have because the future hasn’t arrived. But if you don’t take the RIGHT action now, your future will and can never be the one you want.
Learn from your past. Think about why it didn’t work out so that you don’t repeat the same story and mistake again. This is also one way to discover what you want in your Mr. Right.
Take a piece of paper and write down all the relationships you have and journal what you liked about the relationship and what went wrong.
5. Have a successful end in mind.
Once you are ready to leave the past behind, believe that love is possible for you. If you doubt it, you are sabotaging all your efforts in wanting love in the first place.
I understand that it’s hard to believe that love is possible for you, especially if you have gone through many unsuccessful relationships. You want love but you doubt it can happen for you. You cannot attract love if you fear it.
It takes 21 days to break a habit and 30 to 90 days to break a core belief. So, for the next 21 days, focus on being happy and love yourself the way you want your man to love you.
Whenever the feeling of doubt creeps in, remind yourself that you are a queen and you totally deserve true love. If other women can have it, why not you?
6. Take action.
Ultimately, you can visualize and do your affirmations the whole day but if you are not going to take any action, it’s not going to work for you.
If you want to win the lottery, you still need to get dressed and get out of the house to buy the ticket.
Taking action may require you to get out of your comfort zone. As they say, what you want is outside your comfort zone.
Go take up gender balance activities. Better yet, take part in activities that you already like. You’ll definitely have common topics to talk about and you won’t be caught in a situation where you have nothing to say.
7. Be 100% responsible.
If you blame your circumstances or the men who have hurt you, you give your power away. That means, you have no control over what’s happening to you. You allow other people to control how you should and can feel.
When you take responsibility for your actions, you start to take your power back and you can then design the love life you want like a CEO.
Just think about how a CEO of a company will think, act and behave. If you want to be the CEO of you love life, then you need to think, act and behave like a true CEO will.
Follow these 7 simple steps will take you steps closer to being the CEO of your love life.
About Elyse Anne
Elyse is Singapore and Asia’s Leading Love & Success Mindset expert and coach for women from www.PurposelyInLove.com . She was featured as a LOVE expert in CLEO magazine (February 2013 issue), on radio 938 LIVE (Eugene Loh’s A Slice of Life and Michelle Martin’s The WOW Club), an expert on the website, SelfGrowth.com and she has been nominated as XTRAORDINARY women 2013.
She specializes in helping women who struggles with attracting the love they desire and creating the life they want. With her proven, undiluted and specific step by step system on how to create healthy and long lasting relationships, her clients usually experience their breakthroughs very quickly. This system has helped thousands of women around the world to design the love life they desire and create the life they deserve.
Everyone deserves true love… why not you?
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
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