What can you learn from the Dog Whisperer about love ?

21 January 2013

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I hear this all the time from the women I speak to. 

"Why is nothing happening for me?"
"Why is it that the men I like, are not interested? And the ones who are interested in me, I'm not!"
"What happened to the men after the first date?"
"Why am I attracting all the married or unavailable men?"

Do these questions ring a bell or sound familiar?

Well.... I know how that feels because I was once in the position and I wondered if there's something wrong with me and maybe it's because my boobs were too small that's why I can't attract quality men. Maybe if I tried to fix myself then I'll have an easy time attracting men that I like.

The good news is... I'm here to tell you that there's nothing wrong with you and there's nothing you need to fix! I know... your next question is this... if I'm so perfect then why is it so difficult to get on quality dates or at least men who are you are keen in.

If you've watched the Dog whisperer, Cesar Millan how he tames the "unruly" dogs, you'll probably know what I'm going to say.  How he tames the dogs is very simple.  He "trains" the humans first and then tame the dog.  He says usually it's always the human's energy that's messed up that's causing the dog to go crazy.  Once the human gets a grip over his own emotions and calms down, more often than not, the dog calms down as well.

So what can we learn here, if the dog can sense it's owner's energy and reflecting how the owner is feeling then the same applies here to our dating patterns. Before I elaborate more on this. I want to add on to this energy thing.

Louise Hay said, when a 2 year old displays their terrible 2's tantrum, it's usually a reflection of their parent's emotions.  And I absolutely agree with her. You're a reflection of your parents. 

Your kids (if you have any) learn and pick up your energy whether you like it or not, believe it or not!  So if your kids are going a bit wild, reflect on your inner feelings. More often than not, you're also going through "one of those days".

I recently gave birth to my 3rd child 3 weeks ago and the two older girls adores the baby.  There was no jealously what so ever. And I would love to think because we gave so much love to our girls therefore, they are generously giving their love to their younger sister.  When we brought baby Arielle to the paediatrician, she asked how were the older girls reaction towards the baby.  We told her the girls love the baby and the paediatrician said then we as parents have done it right! YAY!

Back to your dating scene, what does this all mean to you?  It means that if your dates are disappearing after the first few dates or men who can't commit, it means deep down somewhere, either you're not really ready for a committed relationship, you don't believe in love or men (you think that all the men are trying to hurt you or you don't believe there's such a thing called love) or you don't know really know what exactly you want.

Your environment is just a reflection of your beliefs. It's not the other way round.

If you want to start attracting men who will treat you right, then start with yourself first.  Start treating yourself the way you want men to treat you.  And the best way to do it, is to love yourself more and get to know what makes you happy....

Always choose to invest in yourself first and you won't go wrong with it!

Have fun loving yourself.... If you don't know how to love you, would anyone know how to love you?

© Elyse-anne - The Love Coach for Successful Single Women | Relationship expert for All Women

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