He said he'll call... But didn't
30 September 2013
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For a long time, I've been telling the ladies... not to think too much and jump into conclusion that if a
guy says he'll call but didn't.
Well... I obviously don't think like a man so I think that if he doesn't call, he's busy... not that he's out with some other women. The reason why I believe this is because, women are great story tellers. Women can come up with the most ridiculous stories to justify why he didn't call and therefore conclude there's something wrong them. Stories are not facts.
Well... I obviously don't think like a man so I think that if he doesn't call, he's busy... not that he's out with some other women. The reason why I believe this is because, women are great story tellers. Women can come up with the most ridiculous stories to justify why he didn't call and therefore conclude there's something wrong them. Stories are not facts.
I had coffee with a guy friend recently and I decided to ask him what he thinks or why is it when a guy says he'll call but didn't. My friend is not just any ordinary man. He used to run a dating agency so I trust his experience.
Want to know what he said? Watch the video to find out...
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design A Love Life They Deserve | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
Instant Love Karma
25 September 2013
This love story belongs to a client who has been a client for a while now. When she started coaching with me, she just broke off with her boyfriend and was in a bad state. Manless and jobless.
Seriously, life can't get any worse than this.
Fast forward to today, she's in a job she loves and learning how to design her love life. But we all could do a little more push to get reach our maximum potential.
You may think you already know it all because your life is pretty good. But here's the thing... we all have blind spots and we can't see them. So if you can't see them, you can't change what you don't know.
The reason why I love VIP days is because it really is a accelerated process where the journey is condensed from 3 months to 1 day.
When we started the session, we talked about her dreams and we mapped it out. She looked at it and said, "I think it'll take me 10 years to get there." What she meant was the amount of inner work she had to do.
After I sprinkled my magic on her, she was so impressed that she was able to accomplish her emotional breakthroughs in 2 hours!
When you are in the "right" environment, anything can happen.
She asked me why I had to put her in a luxurious hotel room.
That's because if you're in a familiar environment, you're in your comfort zone and it doesn't change much of your experience.
In order to rapidly change and rewire your brain, you need to experience something new.
Here are some photos of the day.... Enjoy....
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
Do Opposites Attract?
23 September 2013
I hear this all the time... Opposites attract. I used to think it's true. But in this video today I would like to share why I don't believe this is the case.
On a side note, do you actually want to attract someone who's the same as you or do you want to attract someone who's completely opposite from you?
I feel it depends on why you want to be in a relationship or why you want a man.
If you want a man to save you, then obviously you'll want someone who is the complete opposite of you. However, if you are already successful and happy then you would want someone of equal status.
So, coming back to the question.... Do opposites attract?
The answer is NO. On the surface, it may seem like the opposites attract. But that's only on the superficial level. If you know and believe about the Law of Attraction, then you'll know that LIKE Attracts LIKE.
That means you attract what/ who you deserve to have. You may be saying.... NO!!! How the heck is this possible... Why would I want to emotionally unavailable men?
You attract the men who mirror your thoughts and beliefs.
YES! On the conscious level, you know you don't want. But that does not mean you unconsciously believe that's the case. It's always the unconscious beliefs that are driving your results.
WATCH the rest of the video to find out how you can attract the man of your dreams RIGHT NOW!
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
7 Tips To Be The CEO Of Your Love Life
16 September 2013
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You believe in love but the guys you are attracting are either married or emotionally unavailable. You know that there is such a thing called love but just not sure why it’s not happening to you.
We all unconsciously know that love exists. But do you know what LOVE really is?
It doesn’t matter what your life purpose or mission is, I believe that your sole purpose in life is to find love and be happy. It’s such a simple desire but yet the journey to finding love seems so tough.
Well, I don’t blame you. How would you know how love feels like if you don’t know what is love and how it feels like in the first place. Have you ever wondered where your concept of love came from? Do you think those Hollywood movies have any impact in your love life? If you did, then you’ll always be expecting a relationship to be filled with dramas.
Next, I want you to look at your parent’s relationship. How would you describe it? Is it unconsciously affecting your relationships?
Whatever you have unconsciously learned about love as a child, I want to tell you that you can consciously change it now.
Don’t leave your love life to fate and wait hopelessly for the right man to appear. I want to show you how you can actually design your love life and attract the men who you actually want to date instead of those you don’t really want.
1. Make a decision.
The only difference between you and the women who are in happy relationships, is a decision. You can never change other people to make your life easier. Once you start treating yourself like a queen, others will follow suit. Think about it this way, if you don’t treat yourself right, why would others treat you right?
The abuser cannot play his role if you didn’t choose to be a victim.
2. Get clear on why you want love.
Most women want a relationship because they feel lonely or they think that by having a man, the man will save them from the current situation they are in. Kim Kiyosaki famously said,” A man is not your financial plan.”
If you want a man because you are lonely, then you are unconsciously sending out desperate and needy vibes and therefore, you won’t be able to attract a healthy relationship. You attract what you radiate.
A man cannot fill the emotional void you have within yourself. So get clear why you want love. Make sure it’s not because you are desperate or needy. Another thing is make sure you are wanting a relationship not because your biology clock is ticking or that’s what everyone say you should do.
3. What type of man you really want to date.
I’m sure you know the kind of men you don’t want to date but that’s not enough. You are getting only one part of the formula right.
It’s like telling the waiter you want fish but don’t tell him how you want it to be served. The chef will not be able cook up something you want. If you would just tell the waiter exactly what you wanted and told him you wanted fish and chips, you will get fish and chips.
So, be clear on the kind of men you want to date. The only reason why women don’t (dare) to get clear is because they don’t know what they want and therefore leaving it completely to fate. Date as the men come along and then decide from there. But you risk and waste a lot of time trying to make things right. It’s harder for a women pull out once she’s emotionally involved.
Also, women don’t get clear because they doubt there is this perfect man for them.
4. Let go of the past.
Don’t let your past experiences decide the kind of future you can have because the future hasn’t arrived. But if you don’t take the RIGHT action now, your future will and can never be the one you want.
Learn from your past. Think about why it didn’t work out so that you don’t repeat the same story and mistake again. This is also one way to discover what you want in your Mr. Right.
Take a piece of paper and write down all the relationships you have and journal what you liked about the relationship and what went wrong.
5. Have a successful end in mind.
Once you are ready to leave the past behind, believe that love is possible for you. If you doubt it, you are sabotaging all your efforts in wanting love in the first place.
I understand that it’s hard to believe that love is possible for you, especially if you have gone through many unsuccessful relationships. You want love but you doubt it can happen for you. You cannot attract love if you fear it.
It takes 21 days to break a habit and 30 to 90 days to break a core belief. So, for the next 21 days, focus on being happy and love yourself the way you want your man to love you.
Whenever the feeling of doubt creeps in, remind yourself that you are a queen and you totally deserve true love. If other women can have it, why not you?
6. Take action.
Ultimately, you can visualize and do your affirmations the whole day but if you are not going to take any action, it’s not going to work for you.
If you want to win the lottery, you still need to get dressed and get out of the house to buy the ticket.
Taking action may require you to get out of your comfort zone. As they say, what you want is outside your comfort zone.
Go take up gender balance activities. Better yet, take part in activities that you already like. You’ll definitely have common topics to talk about and you won’t be caught in a situation where you have nothing to say.
7. Be 100% responsible.
If you blame your circumstances or the men who have hurt you, you give your power away. That means, you have no control over what’s happening to you. You allow other people to control how you should and can feel.
When you take responsibility for your actions, you start to take your power back and you can then design the love life you want like a CEO.
Just think about how a CEO of a company will think, act and behave. If you want to be the CEO of you love life, then you need to think, act and behave like a true CEO will.
Follow these 7 simple steps will take you steps closer to being the CEO of your love life.
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
Are you spying on your boyfriend?
09 September 2013
Do you have the tendency to check on your partner's handphone or emails?
Have you ever wondered why you do this? If you don't trust him, does that mean you also don't trust that you are the woman meant for him?
If you trust yourself and know that you are the best, why do you need to check on your partner's stuff? He may be your partner but he doesn't belong to you. And we all need our space. I'm pretty sure you like your freedom and you don't like people "spying" on you either.
Alright! You may suspect that he's cheating on you. Still.... that doesn't give you the right to check on his stuff. And I'm not saying you shouldn't trust your own gut feeling and intuition.
Let me ask you a question. So... now that you've found out that he may be cheating on you. What do you plan to do with the evidence? Do you plan to keep quiet but allow your emotions to fly all over the place? And eventually.... maybe self destruct and go into a depression?
If you don't plan to do anything with the evidence, then I suggest you don't check on anything. If you do suspect.....
Watch the video to find out what you can do, instead of sneaking behind his back.
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
Emotional Crisis
06 September 2013
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Have you ever had the feeling of not having enough? Not enough time.... not enough money.... not enough anything?
I'm currently going through an emotional crisis which I haven't experienced in a while now. The last
time I had this feeling of unsettle-ness was a year ago. Last year, I was trying to figure out my life purpose and what I wanted to do for the rest of my life. I had no savings.... no job... nothing.... only a burning desire to want to be success. So... I hired a coach. Most people would think this is complete madness!
But yet something inside was telling me to do it and the money will come. I know it's hard to believe that there's a way out when you are at rock bottom. But if you are at rock bottom, the only way to go is up. You can't go any further down.
I trusted this feeling and sure.... in less than a year, the success I achieved was truly miraculous and remarkable. I went on radio, featured in the magazines and I'm 1 of the 5 women who are nominated as Xtraordinary Women 2013.
Despite having all these success, I still worry a lot about money. Even when I had money, I would worry about when is the next "pay day". I would worry about losing the money. Have you ever had those experiences?
Well, this feeling of not having enough is back again. I realized... with or without money, I was still worried. So that means, it's not about the money. It was about my own insecurities. What it really mean is that I don't trust the universe and I'm back to my control-freak self.
People who have a lot of mind chatter are also control freaks! They want to try to control the outcome and they aren't risk takers.
What is mind chatter?
Mind chatter is the "noise" or thoughts in your head going on and on and one. And what you are thinking today is the same as what you were thinking yesterday and the day before and the day before.
EG:
You go on a date and the guy says he'll call but he didn't. So you have theses demeaning and horrible thoughts like:
"Maybe I said something wrong...."
"Maybe he didn't like my dress...."
"Maybe my boobs weren't big enough...."
"Maybe..... he didn't think I'm smart enough for him..."
Get my point? Mind chatters are stories you tell yourself that isn't a fact.
Well, maybe he was really busy with work and he didn't have the time to call you back.
I'm sharing my emotional crisis with you because I want to let you know that I've my moments too. I want to tell you I'm on this journey with you. You are not alone and I know how it feels like.
I recognize that I've hit a plateau and I'm moving on to the next level. And it's really uncomfortable because I don't want to stay in my comfort zone but yet I can't see what are the next steps. I know deep down something big is about to happen.
This is not the first time it happened... so I kinda know the drill. In the past, I had to deal with another emotion with is FEAR. Because I know what to expect, fear is no longer in the equation. Just anticipation. And the body can't really tell the difference with fear and excitement. Now as I'm becoming more aware of my emotions, I'm feeling the excitement but I thought it's fear.
Anyway, here's how I manage my emotional crisis:
- It's my job to know WHY not how.
- Stay focused on the end result.
- Take 1 step at a time.
- Communicate with my mentors and seek advice.
- Journal my emotions. (Be conscious about my emotions - what are they trying to tell me.)
- Decide.
- Have faith!
As they say.... there's always a breakdown before a breakthrough. It's as if the universe is rearranging itself to make things happen for you. A lot of people give up during this time because they think that nothing is happening and they tell themselves.... "it's a sign from the universe that it's not meant to be."
One thing is for sure. We cannot out smart the universe and the universe has unlimited resources that our minds cannot imagine. The universe knows what's best for us and it is always on time.
REMINDER to self:
Have faith.... stay strong and trust that everything will be fine. All is well.
I'm the center of the universe. What is it that I choose to experience right now?
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
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