7 Tips To Be The CEO Of Your Love Life

16 September 2013

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Do you believe in fairy tales? Are you wondering if you are ever going to get a fairy tale ending? 
You believe in love but the guys you are attracting are either married or emotionally unavailable. You know that there is such a thing called love but just not sure why it’s not happening to you.
We all unconsciously know that love exists. But do you know what LOVE really is?
It doesn’t matter what your life purpose or mission is, I believe that your sole purpose in life is to find love and be happy. It’s such a simple desire but yet the journey to finding love seems so tough.
Well, I don’t blame you. How would you know how love feels like if you don’t know what is love and how it feels like in the first place. Have you ever wondered where your concept of love came from? Do you think those Hollywood movies have any impact in your love life? If you did, then you’ll always be expecting a relationship to be filled with dramas.
Next, I want you to look at your parent’s relationship. How would you describe it? Is it unconsciously affecting your relationships?
Whatever you have unconsciously learned about love as a child, I want to tell you that you can consciously change it now.
Don’t leave your love life to fate and wait hopelessly for the right man to appear. I want to show you how you can actually design your love life and attract the men who you actually want to date instead of those you don’t really want.

1. Make a decision.

The only difference between you and the women who are in happy relationships, is a decision. You can never change other people to make your life easier. Once you start treating yourself like a queen, others will follow suit. Think about it this way, if you don’t treat yourself right, why would others treat you right?
The abuser cannot play his role if you didn’t choose to be a victim.

2. Get clear on why you want love.

Most women want a relationship because they feel lonely or they think that by having  a man, the man will save them from the current situation they are in. Kim Kiyosaki famously said,” A man is not your financial plan.”
If you want a man because you are lonely, then you are unconsciously sending out desperate and needy vibes and therefore, you won’t be able to attract a healthy relationship. You attract what you radiate.
A man cannot fill the emotional void you have within yourself. So get clear why you want love. Make sure it’s not because you are desperate or needy. Another thing is make sure you are wanting a relationship not because your biology clock is ticking or that’s what everyone say you should do.

3. What type of man you really want to date.

I’m sure you know the kind of men you don’t want to date but that’s not enough. You are getting only one part of the formula right.
It’s like telling the waiter you want fish but don’t tell him how you want it to be served. The chef will not be able cook up something you want. If you would just tell the waiter exactly what you wanted and told him you wanted fish and chips, you will get fish and chips.
So, be clear on the kind of men you want to date. The only reason why women don’t (dare) to get clear is because they don’t know what they want and therefore leaving it completely to fate. Date as the men come along and then decide from there. But you risk and waste a lot of time trying to make things right. It’s harder for a women pull out once she’s emotionally involved.
Also, women don’t get clear because they doubt there is this perfect man for them.

4. Let go of the past.

Don’t let your past experiences decide the kind of future you can have because the future hasn’t arrived. But if you don’t take the RIGHT action now, your future will and can never be the one you want.
Learn from your past. Think about why it didn’t work out so that you don’t repeat the same story and mistake again. This is also one way to discover what you want in your Mr. Right.
Take a piece of paper and write down all the relationships you have and journal what you liked about the relationship and what went wrong.

5. Have a successful end in mind.

Once you are ready to leave the past behind, believe that love is possible for you. If you doubt it, you are sabotaging all your efforts in wanting love in the first place.
I understand that it’s hard to believe that love is possible for you, especially if you have gone through many unsuccessful relationships. You want love but you doubt it can happen for you.  You cannot attract love if you fear it.
It takes 21 days to break a habit and 30 to 90 days to break a core belief. So, for the next 21 days, focus on being happy and love yourself the way you want your man to love you.
Whenever the feeling of doubt creeps in, remind yourself that you are a queen and you totally deserve true love. If other women can have it, why not you?

6. Take action.

Ultimately, you can visualize and do your affirmations the whole day but if you are not going to take any action, it’s not going to work for you.
If you want to win the lottery, you still need to get dressed and get out of the house to buy the ticket.
Taking action may require you to get out of your comfort zone. As they say, what you want is outside your comfort zone.
Go take up gender balance activities. Better yet, take part in activities that you already like. You’ll definitely have common topics to talk about and you won’t be caught in a situation where you have nothing to say.

7. Be 100% responsible.

If you blame your circumstances or the men who have hurt you, you give your power away. That means, you have no control over what’s happening to you. You allow other people to control how you should and can feel.
When you take responsibility for your actions, you start to take your power back and you can then design the love life you want like a CEO.
Just think about how a CEO of a company will think, act and behave. If you want to be the CEO of you love life, then you need to think, act and behave like a true CEO will.
Follow these 7 simple steps will take you steps closer to being the CEO of your love life.

Elyse Anne

About Elyse Anne

Elyse is Singapore and Asia’s Leading Love & Success Mindset expert and coach for women from www.PurposelyInLove.com .  She was featured as a LOVE expert in CLEO magazine (February 2013 issue), on radio 938 LIVE (Eugene Loh’s A Slice of Life and Michelle Martin’s The WOW Club), an expert on the website, SelfGrowth.com and she has been nominated as XTRAORDINARY women 2013.
She specializes in helping women who struggles with attracting the love they desire and creating the life they want. With her proven, undiluted and specific step by step system on how to create healthy and long lasting relationships, her clients usually experience their breakthroughs very quickly. This system has helped thousands of women around the world to design the love life they desire and create the life they deserve.
Everyone deserves true love… why not you?

© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach 

Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.


  1. Great advice! Especially about taking responsibility and not giving your power away.

  2. Thanks Val for your kind words and I'm glad you enjoyed it. =)

    Do share this with your loved one who you feel will benefit from this as well. =)


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