Women And Money
27 October 2013
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One of the reason why I achieved success in such a period of time is because I always follow my intuition. Intuition isn't the same as the "little voice".
The "little voice" tells you things like you can't do or... YEAH RIGHT!
The voice of the intuition gives you hope and strength. Although it may tell you do something completely out of you comfort zone but it shows you a solution. I always seek higher guidance for everything in my life.
So... your intuition may have told you that this guy will break your heart but you don't listen to it and ... erm... yes your intuition was right. The thing is... the more you listen to it... the louder it gets and you'll trust yourself to make decisions on your own.
Something strange about women. They can't think for themselves. Whenever they meet a new guy, they NEED to show him to her girls to make sure her girls approves of him. *roll eyes*
Excuse me... who's dating this guy now? You or your girls?
One thing I learn from successful people is that they make decision very quickly and they make it on their own. They trust their gut. When you ask around, what does it say? It says that you don't trust yourself for making decision for yourself because should something go wrong... it's not your fault.
Now.... be it in your love life or in your financial situation, you HAVE to be 100% for you own situation. You don't need permission from anyone to live your good fortune.
OK! For those of you who need permission to go get the life you deserve.... YOU HAVE MY PERMISSION...
Coming back to why I wanted to facilitate this Women And Money Workshop is because just 1 year ago, I was struggling. Struggling to make ends meet... struggling to make sense of why the heck I'm here... just struggling in general, if you know what I mean.
Today, I went from struggling to thriving and I even won the Xtraordinary Women Award 2013 - Best Working Mother. I thought to myself, that there must be a reason why I won this award. At the end of the day, an award is an award is an award. I believe that everything happens for a reason.
Let's face it... the reality is as such, people won't listen to you unless you've proved that you're worth listening too.
So, the workshop Women And Money was born. Since I won the award, I've received so many emails from women asking me how to monetize their passion and how to break free from the current situation they are in right now.
There're many .... many... many women out there who are dragging their feet to work but yet are so afraid to leave. Kind of like, staying in a toxic and abusive relationship even though they know it's not for their highest good. WHY?
FEAR!
Fear that they may not find a better man or job so this is as good as it gets. Fear that they will not be able to monetize their passion. It all boils down the lack of self worth.
"Who the heck am I to make so much money?"
"Who the heck am I to want to change the world?"
"Will anyone actually want to buy my products?"
So, what has this got to do with marrying the right man?
See... you want to marry the right man. Your right man wants to marry the right woman too. Are you the right woman?
Don't think that a man will magically appear and save you out of your situation. It only happens in the movies... in Hollywood!
When you learn how to make your own money and stand on your own 2 feet, you will start weeding out men who don't deserve your love and time.
If you're struggling in any areas of your life, you'll attract men who are confused and messed up in their own ways too.
I would like to see more women get their act together and start creating a life they deserve. No woman deserves to live a life they don't want. No woman! PERIOD!
This isn't going to be last Women And Money workshop. I would actually like to tour around the world talk about this.
If you would like to have me speak to your community, please shoot me an email >>> Elyse@PurposelyLove.com.
I discovered that there's something magical about the number $10K. Once you reach $10K, the world seems to change. And it's my desire to start a $10K club to help women achieve this in a short period of time.
If you haven't achieved any success in your life, it really means that you're not really hard up for it. Before money can work for you, you have to work for the money first.
There're no short cuts to success. If you're unwilling to do the work, then don't whine and complain.
"Learning how from a dark place Elyse has blossomed. Therefore it is possible for all of us through awareness and action. Liberating talk about money the whole day.
Not having money is no shame but women need to acknowledge this is a problem and find how they can be self sufficient - else they end up relying on a relationship or a job that is based purely on money.
I've learnt not to give myself excuses or doubt my beliefs and self worth. I'm 100% responsible or money and not everything is about money all the time. With good intention, money will come to me."
~ Angie
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| Photo courtesy from Angie. |
"The workshop helps me to take an honest look at my relationship with money and uncover what are some of my limiting beliefs about money that are stopping me from enjoying greater abundance.
I love it that Elyse is very transparent about sharing her personal experiences and past struggles.
It's an inspiring workshop and I totally recommend it."
~ Ruth Wong (Freelance writer & Mom blogger - Mommy Cafe)
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| Photo courtesy from Jun Mi. |
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design A Love Life They Deserve | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
What Is Your Love Zone?
19 October 2013
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Have you heard of this saying... Whatever you want is outside your comfort zone? So what is your LOVE zone?
You may say you want love and believe in love but until you experience love, you'll always attract a relationship based on your past relationships. Because that is your comfort zone.
You can have anything you want. You can't sit and OooMMm the whole day and not take any action. You can spend your time making a nice vision board or repeat affirmations to yourself everyday but you are not going to take any action, you won't get anywhere.
Before you take any action, it's good to find out what are your REAL beliefs about LOVE. Watch the video to find out what's really sabotaging your love life.
Why this is important? Because until you find out what's sabotaging your love life, you'll always have this little voice that will tell you... Yeah Right!
Successful Career, Relationship Failure?
14 October 2013
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You may think that women who have successful careers will have successful relationships.
When I talk about relationships, I'm not talking about people relationships. I'm talking about BGR (boy-girl relationships)
In reality, many career women struggle in that department. You would think that women who are successful have got everything sorted out right? That's just theory.
See... if you really want to climb the corporate ladder to be successful, all you need to do is be the best employee, add value to the company, make sure your have a good working relationship with your boss and ultimately make lots of money for the company. If you follow all these steps, there's no reason why you will not be promoted and get your rank.
If only BGR is that easy. There will be many happily ever after stories, no divorces and more happy people. You can read as many self help books and even attend all the love guru's workshops BUT love isn't 1 + 1 = 2. "Unfortunately" for some, we have FREE WILL. And we can't force men to love you the way you want.
You can certainly manipulate them to fall in love with you by acting a certain way or speaking a certain way. But you won't get to be YOU. Is that what you want?
Watch the video to find out how you can have both successful careers and relationships.
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design A Love Life They Deserve | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
How Do You Know If He's The Right One?
04 October 2013
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We all tend to think that our problems in relationships are unique. And sometimes you'll hear women say... "You don't understand my situation. He's different."
Let me assure you that this is not true. Whether you are in America, London, Africa, China, Singapore or even in the North Pole. We all think alike. That's the herd mentality or collective consciousness Carl Jung talked about.
Singapore is a cosmopolitan city with 4 main races but over the years we have counter parts from all over the world making Singapore their home. And I often hear the Singapore women lamenting on how easy it is for the caucasian ladies to "score" a man because they are confident, poised and... different.
On the other hand, I hear the caucasian sisters tell me that they are having such a difficult time here in Singapore because most of the expatriates come with their families and that dramatically lower their chances.
Have your heard of this saying... the moon is always greener on the other side? Well... we always think and assume that other people are having an easier time.
May I take this opportunity to remind you never to assume. ASSUME = making an Ass out of U and ME! And let me ASSURE you that the questions I get from the women are the same.
1. Where can I find him?
2. How can I find him?
3. When is the right time?
4. Is there something wrong with me?
5. How do I know if he's THE RIGHT ONE?
Whether you have been single for a long time or you are already dating someone, there is always this question lingering at the back of your mind.
HOW DO I KNOW IF HE'S THE RIGHT ONE?
Before I answer that, let me be the bad person and burst some bubbles (aka mind chatter or mind monkeys) in your mind and bring you back to reality.... Don't shoot the messenger ok... You can see this as tough love from me to you.
I want to ask you ask you a question:
- why do you want/need love?
Is it because you are lonely? Or you feel that if you have a man, you will be happier and life will be good for you?
If you come from this mindset, what it unconsciously saying about you is that you are hoping that a man will rescue you. And you see yourself as a victim.
When you come from a place of neediness, you will never attract the right one! As the Law of Attraction states, LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE.
There's really no such thing as the right one or the wrong one. You attract who you believe you deserve to have. I know! In your mind you may be thinking... Why the heck would I want to attract uncommitted men?
On the conscious level, you know that's what you do not want. But still, you are constantly attracting men who you don't want. So that means, you have to make your unconscious conscious, otherwise you will think this is fate (that's why Carl Jung said).
The formula is really simple.
When you are the RIGHT one, you will attract the Right one.
Most women expect to find a prince charming when they are the evil step sister.
I want to share a story with you.
I was asking a lady what qualities does she have and it seems like she took it the wrong way. And she yelled at me and accused me of being rude. Then I asked her what kind of guy she wanted and if she thought she was the right one?
Here's her answer:
"I know I'm the right one except for my fiery temper so I want to have a guy who is calm and cool."
My answer to her:
"That's great! You know you are the right one but I'm just curious. Why would Mr Perfect/ Mr Right who is calm and cool want someone who has got a fiery temper?"
There was a long pause and then she replied...... " Ya... that's true... I didn't think about it that way."
If you are thinking if he's the right one, I'm sure he's also thinking if you are the right one. Trust your inner gut feeling and if you sense that something is wrong then probably he's not the one.
True love is like a puzzle piece that fits effortlessly together. If it hurts, it ain't love.
© Elyse-Anne - The Love and Relationship Success Mindset Expert | Coach and Mentor for Women Who Want To Design Their Love Life | Certified Creative Love™ Coach
Purposely In Love is a personal development company that helps women attract, master and teach love. The process is based on Jungian Psychology and Eastern Philosophy, a deeper approach than the surface dating tips, helping singles consciously create a relationship with the person that is meant for their true self.
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